Introducing a Lovey

The Snuggle is Real: Your Complete Guide to Introducing a Lovey

That soft, well-worn teddy bear, the silky corner of a blanket, or the oddly specific stuffed dinosaur – these are loveys, the comfort items that can become steadfast companions for our little ones. More than just toys, loveys provide a sense of security, familiarity, and comfort, especially during times of transition like bedtime or when separated from a primary caregiver. But how do you introduce one successfully? This guide will walk you through everything you need to know.

Why Introduce a Lovey?

Loveys serve several important functions for young children. They can:

• Provide Security: A familiar object can offer comfort in new or stressful situations, acting as a tangible representation of home and safety.

• Aid in Independent Sleep: By offering a source of comfort, loveys can help children self-soothe and fall asleep independently, reducing reliance on parental presence.

• Ease Transitions: Starting daycare, traveling, or moving to a new bed can be less daunting with a trusted lovey by their side.

When is the Right Time?

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends waiting until your baby is at least 12 months old before introducing any loose items into the crib due to suffocation risks. Once your child is over one year old, they have the fine motor skills to move an object away from their face if needed.

While there isn't a strict "perfect" age after one, look for cues that your child might be ready. This could include:

• Showing interest in a particular soft toy or blanket.

• Seeking comfort from a specific item, like your hair or a tag on a blanket.

• Starting to exhibit signs of separation anxiety.

How to Introduce a Lovey Successfully:

1. Choose Wisely: Opt for a small, soft, and washable item. Avoid anything with small parts that could detach and become a choking hazard. Consider duplicates if the lovey becomes a firm favorite – this can be a lifesaver during wash cycles!

2. Create Positive Associations: Don't just plop the lovey in the crib one night. Introduce it gradually during happy, calm moments. Let your child hold it during feeding, playtime, and cuddle time.

3. Make it Familiar: Keep the lovey with you and your child for a few days or weeks. Let it absorb your scent, which can be comforting for your little one.

4. Incorporate it into the Bedtime Routine: Once your child seems comfortable with the lovey, start including it in their bedtime routine. Have it present during stories or lullabies.

5. Place it in the Crib (Safely): When it's time for sleep, place the lovey near your child. Don't force it if they aren't interested. It might take time for them to form a connection.

6. Be Patient and Observant: Some children take to a lovey immediately, while others might take longer or never fully attach to one. Don't pressure your child. Respect their preferences.

7. Don't Worry About "The One": Your child might gravitate towards something unexpected. As long as it's safe, embrace their choice!

Troubleshooting Common Issues:

• Rejection: If your child shows no interest, don't force it. Try a different item or revisit the idea in a few weeks.

• Over-Reliance: While loveys are comforting, ensure your child can still function happily without it for short periods.

• Loss: This can be upsetting. Having a backup (or two!) can prevent major meltdowns. Regularly wash and rotate the loveys to keep them all familiar.

Introducing a lovey can be a wonderful way to provide your child with an extra layer of comfort and security as they grow and become more independent. By following these guidelines and being patient, you can help your little one find a cherished companion that will offer solace for years to come. Just remember to prioritize safety and let your child lead the way in forming this special bond.

If you're facing challenges, please feel free to reach out to book your 30 minute Sweet Dreams Starter call to learn how I can help your family get the gift of sleep.

Yours in sleep,

Tracie / Rest Well Baby

www.restwellbaby.com

Tracie Kesatie is a Certified Gentle Sleep Coach dedicated to helping families with little ones 0-10 years of age achieve a restful night's sleep.

Disclaimer: This article provides general information and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with your pediatrician for any concerns about your child's health.